All in Remember When...

Happy Birthday, Sis. Remember That Epic Road Trip?

This past week my sister, Leigh, celebrated her birthday. Mine is in a couple of weeks. I love that they are both in the same month. I wanted to take the occasion to write a post about what she means to me. I think she knows. I hope she knows. But either way, sharing my love for her with the internet universe just feels right this year.

Leigh and I have shared over four decades of life together. That is a lot of memories and lived experiences. Like most sibling relationships, the highlights include family road trips, epic temper tantrums, and periods of infrequent communication. We are the only two who endured our parents’ alcoholic disfunction, and that alone feels like a badge of something. Certainly not honor, but, hey, we survived in the trenches and are probably closer because of it.

So of all the sister stories I could share in these following few hundred words, the one that I want to write about was when Leigh and I drove from Tacoma to Minneapolis in July 2001 for our paternal grandmother’s funeral.

My Southern Adventure: Moving to Aiken, South Carolina

Now that I am solidly living in my middle life years, sometimes it is fun to think back and reflect on life choices I made when I was younger. The story I am thinking of today occurred when I was in my mid-20s and decided to move to Aiken, South Carolina. Looking back, I am not sure if it was my naive confidence or incredible luck (perhaps a mix of both) that made pivotal inflection points of that journey go in my favor. I know for sure that was it was one of the best life choices I have ever made, and it greatly influenced the direction my life would take.

At the time, I was a reporter for the Daily Citizen, a small rural newspaper in Beaver Dam, Wisconsin. It was a great opportunity, but after a few months on the job, I realized my heart was not in reporting. I moved to Wisconsin from my home state of Washington specifically for that job and to be nearer to my extended family, but I didn't have anything keeping me there other than that. Between the reporting gig that was killing my soul and the harsh mid-west Winters that were killing my mood, when the option of moving to a warmer climate presented itself, I didn't hesitate.

My First Job After Graduating From College Had Nothing To Do with My Major

I actually had two first jobs. One I consider my first job ever. And the other I think of as my first job as an adult. Both were very good learning experiences that taught me life lessons. And they also reinforced a common process of decision-making in my life: they helped me understand what I did like, by doing what I didn't.

The employment options available to me in high school were limited because of my disability. Most retail and fast food positions, common sectors for teenage hires, were too physically demanding or inaccessible. So when an opportunity came along to get paid for talking on the phone (telemarketing), it seemed like a perfect fit. For about six months of my junior year, I did cold calls about three nights a week for Farmer's Insurance. This was back in the early 90's when insurance agents had list books of phone numbers and they would pay young folks such as myself, to call and solicit people for home, auto or life insurance. I mostly pitched auto insurance. If I could keep someone on the phone long enough to answer some basic questions, and ideally agree to have an agent follow up, that was a win. A minimum of 10 wins in one night was considered a good night.

Well, good, according to the agent. Bad for me. Looking back I have no idea how I even lasted six months at that job. While I felt a temporary sense of accomplishment, only punctuated by the delivery of a paycheck every two weeks, it wasn't enough to make me love the job.

Remembering What My Mom and I Shared in Common

Remembering mom and thinking about her a lot today. She sure did give me the best of her. Here are some of the ways:

I love a lot of ice in my drinks. Mom loved a lot of ice in her drinks.

Mom was definitely not a morning person. I am definitely not a morning person.

We both found nostalgic humor in every repeat episode of Fraiser, Home Improvement, King Of Queens and Seinfeld, no matter how many times we saw them. We were each open to new things. I got her into Who Wants to be  a Millionaire, she got me into Lifetime Movie Marathons about the Kennedy's.

The Price Is Right Game Show Reminds Me of Good Times with My Grandma

I've gotten into a pretty consistent routine working my part-time schedule. My 1 p.m. start time, combined with the fact that I am NOT a morning person, means that most days, my internal body clock wakes me up around 10 a.m., just in time to watch in part, or its entirety, The Price is Right.

When everything in the world seems to be uncertain and what is certain is news of doom and gloom, the one hour of fun and games on The Price is Right is an uplifting respite of cheer and good fortune that I love waking up to. Everyone is so happy on the show. Host Drew Carey has brought new life to the show since taking over for the iconic Bob Barker. His enthusiasm for the contestants and general good-naturedness adds