My Journey of Writing in a 5-Year Journal

Fun fact about me: I’m not too fond of journaling. I wouldn’t think this is weird if it weren’t for the fact that I like writing. What writer doesn’t like journaling? I feel like I’m breaking some cardinal writng rule or living some fake writer’s life.

It’s not for lack of trying, either. I have attempted to journal in the past. I’ve invested money in pretty notebooks, cute journals, and plain diaries. I’ve attempted to do Julia Cameron’s Morning Pages and various other guided journals. But I’ve never stuck with any of them for a long period of time. I think in part, it is because I am so much in my head. I think and analyze my thoughts and feelings so many times internally, that I don’t feel the need to regurgitate them on paper. But I know that process is crucial for some people and that it can provide some excellent insights, especially for creative folks.

Looking Ahead to the New Year and My Word of the Year

I love the new year. It is a time for a fresh start, a new beginning, letting go of last year’s bad ju-ju— insert your own cliche here. I am not a person who is big with making resolutions or significant sweeping promises to declare that “this year things are going to be different.” I am far too much of a pragmatist for that. In many ways, I feel that time is somewhat of a social construct to create order, rituals, and routines in our daily life. Step away from the calendar far enough, and you see that life ebbs and flows on its own timetable, and, speaking for myself, I tend to embrace the seasons of life, not just one particular day.

After all, did you really feel any different on December 31 than you did on January 1? I know I didn’t.

The Story Of Things: Mom's Christmas Bell Gift

When I was a kid, I got a reputation in my family for not being able to keep a secret. Maybe the story I am about to tell had something to do with it.

It was Christmastime in 1981, and I was six years old and in the first grade. Every year the week before Christmas vacation, my elementary school's PTA would have a fundraiser called the “Santa Shop.” In our school’s gymnasium they would set up several long tables full of very affordable different knick-knacks and do-dads, kind of like a non-grocery item version of the Dollar Store, but before Dollar Stores existed. The idea was to allow us kids an opportunity to do some Christmas shopping of our own for our family and friends. But at a price-point that a kid’s allowance could afford.

Top 5 Must-Watch Holiday Movies

My holiday season isn’t complete without sitting down and watching a set of movies which I think are the best Christmas movies of all time. Each one offers a little something different. These movies are, for me, true classics— movies that I have no problem watching year after year. There are lines from each film that I’ve memorized by heart. I’ll lead each movie’s introduction with one such line. :)

“Slipper socks! Medium!” The Ref

I’m starting my list with The Ref because this is the first movie we watch every holiday season. Because so few people I know have actually seen it, yet it is so good, I think it must have a cult following. In fact, it did not earn much in Box Office sales and yet, it was critically acclaimed, so there you go. The Ref was released in 1994— directed by Ted Demme, and stars Denis Leary, Judy Davis, and Kevin Spacey (before he made, ummm, headlines.)

It’s somewhat of a challenge to describe The Ref. It’s a very sarcastic and quick-witted storyline filled with some dark-ish comedy. As the back of the movie jacket states, “Leary plays an unfortunate cat burglar who becomes trapped in a fate worse than jail when he takes a bickering couple hostage.”

My Dislikes About the Holidays: What Tops My Holiday "Naughty" List

In last week's blog post, I wrote about five things I love about the holidays. With the things that I love out of the way, I want to share what brings out my Christmas Grinch.

The first three all have a connected theme of stress, chaos, and overwhelm.

Beginning with what tops my "naughty" list is actually the holiday "to do" list itself.

Holidays aside, I already have a pretty packed schedule, but when November 1st comes around, many more tasks need to be prioritized to get done by December 25th. Now I know what you might be thinking: that many of these "tasks" are actually "choices," and I don't have to do them. And I suppose you are right. But I love Christmas, and it only comes around once a year. Down deep, I actually do enjoy the preparation for the holidays, and if I genuinely hated it, I would not do it.

My Holiday Favorites: What Tops My Holiday Nice List

I know it can sound cliche to say that Christmas is a person's favorite time of the year. But for me, it is absolutely the truth. I have felt this way from my earliest childhood memories. I've experienced Christmas with varying degrees of holiday cheer. But whether it was full-fledged Griswold-style gatherings to solitary celebrations when I lived on my own, I've always found a way to make December memorable.

Now that I have a few decades of Christmas's under my jolly ol' belt, I thought it would be fun to sit down and reflect on a handful of things that I love about the holidays, but also a handful I could do without. Adulthood, after all, has a way of dulling the magic luster of Reindeer dust, leaving life feeling like you are dodging piles of Reindeer poo. But more about the Naughty poo list later. First, let's unwrap what tops the Nice List.

3 Ways to Wrap Christmas Presents

While some people find it an exhaustive chore to wrap Christmas presents, I've always enjoyed everything about the process. I think in part, I love all the fun and festive designs of the paper, but I also love the joy of seeing people open presents!

I know not everyone has the knack for wrapping gifts in the bag ;) Additionally, in the fast pace of the holiday season, sitting down to wrap a mound of gifts can take a lot of time. I, too, have been guilty of wrapping presents late at night, just to be opened the next morning.

My Top 5 Favorite Christmas Albums

As I've started to decorate the house this year for Christmas, I began to think about all the different traditions that I love about this time of year. Some Christmas's in my life has been very different compared to others. It has just depended on what season of life I was in at the moment. But there is one tradition that has remained constant throughout all the years: listening to Christmas music.

It helps that I just love Christmas, period. Additionally, during the years where I had to work over the holidays, couldn't afford to buy many gifts, or only had the energy to put of a very few decorations, the one thing I could always turn to was music. All I had to do, at the very least, was just turn on the radio.

One of the things that I love most about Christmas music is the comforting nostalgia it provides. Every year I can't wait to hear my favorites: the Boston Pop's rendition of "Sleigh Ride,"

Managing My Mental Health During the Holidays

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas! Too early? I don't care. Well, maybe I care a little. I don't want to totally annoy Andrew with my pre-Thanksgiving Festivus. It's just poor Alton who has been subjected to holiday playlists during our daily walks. But hey, he can't talk AND I get the honor of picking up his dog poop. So I think he at least owes me that.

At any rate, why am I writing about this? Well, it wasn't what I had planned on writing about today, and since I think all three people are reading these blogs these days, I'm taking the opportunity to use this writing time as a minor therapeutic release.

I am feeling a little blue today. And unlike the song, Blue Christmas, it's not because I'm missing someone from afar. Instead, I'm feeling some pre-holiday overwhelm, some frustrating life stuff, Alton's tummy has been upset, blah blah blah.

Rather than surrender to that blah bah-humbug, after I finish this post (and take Alton on his second walk of the day), I will put on some Christmas music, organize my kitchen pantry, and start decorating the kitchen. Why? Because it will make me happy.

Special Announcement: Opening my Own Etsy Shop!

I have an exciting announcement to make here on Jody Write Now: I've opened my own Etsy Shop. It's called Love Disabled Life, and you can check it out here.

For several years, I've had the idea of wanting to share themes of positive disability identity and experiences of disabled life. I first explored this idea by vlogging my life on YouTube and sharing my disabled experiences. But as I've watched other digital creatives monetize their various talents on social media, I started to ask myself, "If they can do it, why can't I?"

Despite what you hear about overnight YouTube sensations, the grind of being a small creator on YouTube is, well, a grind. It is a slow process that requires a lot of hard work and consistency. And even more so when you are in a niche like the disability community. I quickly realized monetizing through that platform was not a realistic goal. At least not right now.

You can read more about the origin story for Love Disabled LIfe in this blog post. In addition to all the reasons I describe in that post, I also wanted to start a small business to explore my entrepreneurial curiosities and contribute to our family income.

Introducing the Story of Things: Licorice The Lion

I'm so excited to start a new feature on my blog called "The Story of Things." Over the past few years, I've been thinking about minimalism. I'm attracted to the minimalist lifestyle because of the neatness and simplicity it provides, yet, I'm not ready to get rid of all my stuff. I read a quote once that described minimalism this way: minimalism isn't about having nothing. It's about having just the right amount of something. I like the flexibility and personal interpretation this definition provides.

As I've gone through my home and peeled back layers of my belongings to only things I genuinely love, use, and enjoy, it got me thinking: How can I honor those items even more? My answer came: through storytelling. Every few weeks on this blog, I will memorialize an item that is special to me. I will reflect and share about the belonging, and in doing so, also create a kind of archive. So that way, if one day I need or want to let go of even more of my possessions, I can part with the item and still have a way to treasure it.

So with no further ado, the first story

When It Comes to Political Campaigns, Give Till It Hurts

There is a saying: Democracy doesn't work unless you do.

I never really knew what that meant until the evening of November 8, 2016, when one of the worst United States presidents of contemporary history was elected to office. Sidenote: no one was running around then making fantastical claims of election fraud. Just sayin’

In the fallout of those next few weeks, I came to the painful conclusion that I didn't do enough personally to help support my preferred candidate to victory. And in the depths of my despair, let me tell you, that was a big pill to swallow. I knew her loss wasn't my fault alone. Still, I knew I had to bear some responsibility in learning the lesson of preventing a similar devastating election outcome in the future. It frustrates me at times that in society, the actions of the individual "I" aren't seen as directly impacting the collective "we."

Looking back, I realize now I just did the bare minimum to support my candidate. I shared posts on social media, and I donated money to the campaign. Overall, I was just so naively over-confident, I didn't think there was a need to do anything more. I was happy in my feminist echo chamber and prepared to see a significant glass ceiling shattered. Instead, I ended up disillusioned and sick to my stomach. I'll never forget that feeling. I made a promise to myself that I would do whatever I could to never go through that experience again.